From the last five days I have a tab open in my browser on ‘Beautiful words from X’. That’s because I have dreading this letter since the time I started the #AtoZChallenge . When you play Scrabble and you get letter X you can atleast make words like Ox and Sex (remember that strange thing) and Tax but I knew precisely zero words that begin from X aside from Xerox (which is actually a company and not a word by itself).
Interesting fact about letter X by the way. Mental Floss states that there have always been very few words from the letter X. In fact, when Noah Webster compiled his landmark dictionary in 1828, there were only 13 words from this letter. Even today only 0.02% of all the words are listed under X.
One such rare word is ‘Xenagogy’.
The meaning of Xenagogy is ‘A Guidebook’. And since, finding a guidebook to motherhood is so rare, I decide I would use this lovely rare word to talk about it.
Anyways, I must confess that if you actually identified this word and came here looking for a Xenagogy to motherhood then I am just using this word as click bait.
Because no such thing exists.
Sure, you can read a 1000 books and take the advice of family or even be on multiple What’s App support groups. But, when it’s time for implementing anything with children the only thing you can rely on is your instinct.
Case in point is my journey with baby led weaning so far. Various Xenagogy’s ( I am actually loving this word now) will have you believe that a hard line exists between baby led and traditional weaning. But, I am happily following a middle road currently. When I am in a rush, I will feed M myself and on other days I’ll let him play with fruits for an hour if he so wishes. I may come to regret this later but in the moment I can only do what my heart tells me is right for my child.
Another example is on my journey with cloth diapering. Xenagogy’s to cloth diapering will have you believe you need a big stash of diapers and accessories like a diaper pail etc to get started. Or, that it’s an either or journey between cloth and disposables. My journey on the other hand has consisted of using only a small number of 15 diapers which I was on a strict schedule along with only trusty accessory, my washing machine. As for the debate between cloth and disposable, I use cloth all day and a super soaking disposable at night as I am too lazy to change diapers in the dark.
So, ditch all the guidebooks and invest in just one Xenagogy – your mothers’ instinct.