I casually shared this feeling with my mom a few months back and she gleefully exclaimed that now I finally knew what it was like to be a mom. She also added that the latter feeling sort of never really leaves you, atleast until your child is 18. Joy!
But as new age Indian moms, we have something that our moms didn’t. Well, atleast not in the convenient form that we do. And that behold is the Whats App group.
Now, everyone I know of in my immediate circle absolutely detests these What’s App groups. After all we all are a part of atleast 15 such groups that buzz constantly through the day seeking our attention and distracting us from whatever it is we are meant to be doing. I was a What’s App group hater too. That’s until I became a mom.
I came across my first What’s App group courtesy the Mumbai Sling Library’s Facebook page where someone had commented about babywearing and the admin had replied by suggesting they join the group. Considering, I had barely any mom friends (two) when I gave birth, I felt this would be a great way to interact with other moms and asked to join too – all the time hoping and praying this wouldn’t be a mistake I’d come to regret.
From there, I continued on to join groups about Breastfeeding, Moms trying to get fit, Cloth Diapering, Moms running home businesses, Moms with babies in the same age group as mine and my favourite, Mom Bloggers. Suddenly, it was as if I had gone from being out in the cold to entering a room full of laughter and warmth. A room where you could ask the silliest of questions and one where everyone simply got you. Now, rather than wasting my time googling every random worry that crosses my mind, all I have to do is ask these strangers who’ve become my friends about it and clear my mind. You could ofcourse get the same advice from your family too but somehow I trust the guidance of mothers in the same boat as me more because it is not only tried and tested but also relevant now.
Most of the groups I am part of are run by the JAMM’s Network founded by Ritu Gorai and by the Mumbai Sling Library that is run by a bunch of lovely babywearing natural parenting mothers. Thanks to the mothers here, I’ve managed to survive the transition from solely breastfeeding to introducing foods to my baby, scored some greats deals on clothes diaper inserts and carriers as well as learnt not to stress when baby is a bit under the weather.
Aside from the lovely community, what I love most about these groups is that they are strictly policed. You won’t find a single random promotional post here and there’s zero oneupmanship.
I can’t believe it but thanks to these lovely mothers, I have finally embraced the beauty of What’s App Groups.
These groups can be joined by referral only. If you are a mom living in India and would like to be a part of them, please reach out to me and I will introduce you to the administrators.