Part of the reason I started Bawi Mummy was that I felt really isolated when I became a mom. This may sound like I am whining but I don’t have many friends in Mumbai to begin with (since I moved here from NZ) and when I became a mom I realised that the friends I did have were either single or just newly married. I wanted a space where I could talk about my motherhood journey and also form new friends. I found that space with this blog and with the extremely amazing community of mothers I met on social platforms like Instagram.
We didn’t know each other but seeing and reading snippets of these moms’ life made me feel like I had a friend in the trenches with me – someone who understood how you could be so happy, so loved yet so tired and so grumpy all at the same time. One such mom I formed a connection with on Instagram was Nikita a.k.a. Being Mamma Bear. Her posts about life at home with Baby S (who is coincidentally only 2 weeks older than M) made me feel like I already knew her and so when Mothers’ Day rolled around earlier this month I didn’t feel odd reaching out to her and saying that we should organise something for our fellow mom community on Instagram.
Together, over the course of 15 days, we hosted the very first We Are Real Moms Challenge on Instagram and it was a great hit – not only did we have over 50 moms participate but we even got published in Mid-Day for our efforts! Nikita is actually going to host this challenge on a monthly basis and so before she starts this again with another co-host, I decided to sit with her a moment so that you could get to know more about her.
I’m Nikita from Mumbai, and I am a memory-keeping addict. I was studying to be a Chartered Accountant when the Universe made me see that I had other talents (yes, I believe in that kind of stuff), that I was too creative to be stuck crunching numbers, that I should be a writer, a crafter, a designer, or a photographer. So I decided to become all of those things, though the designer and photographer thing still needs work, A LOT.
Now, a little over a year since I started, I have wonderul pictures and notes to go back to. I have met some wonderful moms, like yourself, and made so many new friends that I wouldn’t have made otherwise.
2. When we met, you shared that you are alone with baby all day. This must be very hard considering Miss S now crawls at speed of light and is standing too. What are your top coping strategies?
My coping strategy includes ignoring everything else. If the house is messy, I let it be. If there are washed clothes in the machine, they stay in there till my husband or I find time to hang them to dry. I’ve resorted to video-calling people so she can see faces other than mine, and if I have to use technology, I’d rather use this over plopping her in front of the TV or handing my phone over to her. But when she’s on a crying spree and toys, rocking, or even breastfeeding won’t calm her down, I wear her and take her out for a stroll. Some days, she’s the perfect child and I feel like I can get so much done even though I’m by myself all day. Some days I just want to scream and can’t wait for the day to be over, but then those days thankfully don’t come very often.
3. A little bit about your version of how you and I met on insta.
My first memory of you is you calling me one of your favourite mom bloggers. I like it when someone says nice things about me. Not only is that rare, it is a mood-lifter, especially when someone you don’t even know says that. This was during my 1,000 followers giveaway and I remember seeing that when I was checking out who all participated. And when I saw your profile and the yummy food pictures, I hit the ‘Follow’ button instantly. And since our kids are so close in age, you know how discussions went from there.
4. Have you been able to make any real connections online? How has the experience been?
Yes! Of course I have. I was surprised to find so many other women with September/October babies (including you), going through similar phases and was so glad I could discuss this with them since none of my real-life friends had babies close to S’s age. And I loved that these friendships grew naturally, without having to try.
5. Is Instagram your favourite social media platform? If so why?
As of now, yes. Because of the people on it. I like looking at pictures and I love reading stories, and I’m following just the right people who post pictures of their babies and talk about their experiences. Some mommies even share tips and ideas about what products they love and why, activities you can engage your babies in and so much more. It’s the first thing I see as soon as I wake up (provided Baby S lets me) and the last thing before I fall asleep. It wouldn’t be an exaggeration to say that I am insta obsessed. 😛
6. What do you hope to get from the Being Mamma Bear blog? What keeps the fire burning?
A diary full of records of Baby S’s childhood and my experiences as a mother was what I had in mind when I started blogging as Mamma Bear, and that is the basic objective. Other than that, I wish to be able to provide a single point resource library with all things parenting like Babywearing, Breastfeeding, Cloth Diapering and now, even Baby Led Weaning. Of course I haven’t found the time to write much since Miss S became mobile (and you know I am almost a week late in sending this write-up to you) but I will write about my experience with all of that. Hopefully, soon.
7. If someone were to visit your blog, what are the first 3 posts they should read?